Part 1 of 2
Love is a complicated thing. I’ve never had a steady relationship last more than 4 months… and that made me ask myself a really important question: Why?
Why is it so hard for us to take the relationship advice we give to others?
I can spend an hour telling my best friend that he needs to stop texting the girl who won’t give him the time of day to hold a solid conversation, and later that night I’ll double or triple text the one person I know won’t give me the time of day.
I believe it’s because we all envision that love is something meant for others, not ourselves. It’s meant for the princesses in fairy tales, the couples in rom-coms, but not us. We need a self-reminder that, while it might be easier to tell our friends how to handle complex situations, we need to put ourselves first, too.
Why are we so afraid of rejection?
I once wrote an entire novel of a text message to someone I wanted to ask out, but it wasn’t an actual text asking them out. Instead, it was a text of why I couldn’t ask them out. Not because I didn’t want to be with them, but I had such a strong instinct they didn’t want to be with me.
If someone tells us no, we’ll never know what fairytales we may have been able to be create with that person. But happiness isn’t exclusive to one person. We can still live out those fairytales with other people. Remember though, every fairytale has to begin with a risk. Cinderella knew she would get in trouble for going to the ball, but she did anyways.
Stay tuned for Part 2, coming later this week.