Part 2 of 2
This is a continuation of an article posted on July 3rd, 2018.
Why do we sometimes get bored with the most perfect relationship partners?
I can’t hold down a solid relationship for the life of me because after months of the same thing, it feels repetitive. It gets vanilla. I feel like I’m missing out on so many more opportunities by being locked down to a lover.
You can’t settle down until you know what you want. It’s all trial and error. Sometimes we have to climb these small steps before we can get to the peak happiness. And it’s okay to bounce in and out of relationships, as long as you always treat the other person with respect. It’s never too late to experiment and find out who you really are.
Why do we feel like we need a relationship to be happy?
There are people out there whose happiness depends on another person. Maybe I’m one of them. I certainly know a lot of them. But waking up with someone else in bed next to us just gives us a sense of comfort. Having someone to call just to say “I love you” can be the best feeling in the world.
Humans aren’t meant to be singular creatures. Biologically, we are looking for desirable human traits in others in order reproduce. But relationships shouldn’t be where all of our happiness comes from. You need to be happy with yourself before you can truly be happy with another person. Share the best in each other, don’t try and find your best self through someone else.
At the end of the day, all the answers to this question depend on your definition of love. For me, it’s being able to make someone’s life better without sacrificing any part of myself. If we can help each other grow as individuals by being together, I’ll know that is the person for me. And until that person comes along, it’s crucial that I keep reminding myself that self-love comes first.