Winning the War on Whining
Bella Breakdown
Somehow, over the years and generations, children have perfected a technique that can truly drive any parent out of their mind – whining! Whining is usually a result of a child being overtired or just overdone in some other way. However, they also might adopt this annoying habit when they learn how effective it is and they are not getting what they want. Since this is something that often leads parents to lose their resolve and to give in to whatever it is our child wants, our smart kids know how well this technique works, and will use it to their advantage anytime they see fit. Therefore, how can we as parents nip this nasty habit and make a change in our children?
Explain how to ask properly
Sometimes kids get in the habit of whining because they start when they are truly tired or hungry. However, this quickly turns into something they do all the time. They might not consciously realize they are doing it. So, sit your child down and explain to them the difference between whining and asking for something in a nicer voice. You could even take a quick video of them and play it for them whining versus using a regular voice to show them the difference. Tell them that if they ask for something using their whining voice, you will not respond to them.
Stop getting frustrated
OK, I know this is easier said than done when they hit the high decibel of Moooommmmeeeeeee!!, but at least try to not appear frustrated outwardly. When children are whining, for whatever reason they are seeking a reaction from you, whether it be positive or negative. Not reacting to their whining voice will take lots of patience from you, but will pay off in the end.
Pick your battles
If you are finding yourself saying no to everything all the time, you might want to give up a little bit of control. I am not saying to give in and let your kids have whatever they want, but to give them some choices. When kids feel they have some respect and say in some of their choices, they are more likely to be more respectful toward you.
Praise them for positive behavior
Praise them when you hear them speaking in their regular voice. Recognize when your child does do the right thing. Rather than constantly pointing out when they are doing the wrong thing, acknowledge when they are polite and thank them for remembering.
Have the patience to stick it out. Remember that habits are hard to break, so this will not happen overnight. Be consistent with your expectations of your child, and after some time, you will see results.
Meet The Bella Behind the Blog: Kristen Farley is a mother of three and a domestic goddess. She is a former teacher who enjoys spending lots of time with her kids, healthy eating, volunteering at school, and mommy blogging for the masses.
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