Many compliments and questions are sociably acceptable, but that doesn’t mean they don’t make women feel like they are supposed to pass a test, or they are being investigated. Some topics should be off-limits unless you are talking to a person who’s close to you. Let’s hear what we don’t want to hear. Since the list is rather long, we’ll cover the basics, the most common phrases women fight in everyday life.
You look great for your age
It’s a compliment, but it’s pitting women against each other. “You look younger than your age” means “you look younger than other women I met.” And please, don’t give that compliment to women in their 30s or 40s. They aren’t even close to being considered a certain age. Thank you, next!
When do you think you will get married?
There are many ways to answer this, and none of the answers will sound ladylike. The simple truth is that not all women want to get married. No one knows the exact date when will their wedding take place, but more importantly, a wedding and a marriage aren’t the same things. And they aren’t the most crucial thing in the world. Do you want us to get married just for the sake of it? Then bring back arranged marriages, that will teach you a lesson. There’s no expiration date since women aren’t dairy products.
Why don’t you have kids?
People don’t seem to understand that some women don’t want to have children. Others might be struggling for years, so it’s none of your business. Many women suffered miscarriages, but they won’t post it on social media. We are making progress; women are opening up about these sensitive issues but on their own terms.
Simple “I don’t want to have children” isn’t enough for people. Being childfree is not an easy decision, but when a woman decides so, it doesn’t make her any less of a woman. Stop questioning other people’s choices unless they are affecting you.
Your hair looks better…
Women like to dress up for dates, but most of the time, they dress up for themselves. The same rules apply to hair and makeup, and no amount of “you look better…” will change that. Most women go to their girlfriends for makeover advice. So, don’t comment unless you are in that circle.
So, you’re like a feminist?
Both men and women are desperate to figure out what’s happening inside other people’s heads. Stating obvious, like “you are a feminist,” is meaningless since you answered your question. Feminism is not scary; it’s not some bad word. It’s a matter of equality and respect. Contrary to popular beliefs, women need men in their fight to be as independent as they are. You don’t have to be gay to support the LGBTQ community, just as you don’t have to be a woman to support feminism.
The issue of weight
If you are going to be that guy or that woman, someone who will call a woman lazy just because she isn’t size 2, think again. Women deal with hormonal issues, take prescription pills, and deal with stress differently than men. We come in all shapes and sizes, colors, shades, and yes, men are just as diverse.